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Impact has impact

My father recently passed away, and although there are many profound aspects to this experience, the one I want to share today is one of impact. I was filled with love as people reached out to me in all sorts of ways to share the impact my father had on their lives.

“There were always laughs at the meetings he chaired.”

“He was always playing pranks at work and making us laugh.”

“I remember as a young kid playing at your farm and your Dad was always smiling.”

“I remember learning to play cards with your Dad and he was always so patient and encouraging.”

And the stories kept piling in. While anyone that knows me well, knows that my love and devotion to my father already ran deep, hearing these stories opened me up to a deeper appreciation and love for the way in which my father had lived his life and lifted others. I knew how much I loved and respected my father, but I honestly had no idea how many fond memories filled with love and respect that others held of him too.

This got me thinking. A lot.

What if I had heard these stories even before my father passed away? What would be the impact on how much I was able to love and support my father in his wonderful life? What would it look like if I shared my gratitude and appreciation for the friends and family in my life, with their friends and family? Would my friend’s children see their Mom in a whole new light when I share with them how amazing her timing is for knowing when I need a hug, even when I don’t reach out? Would my cousins have a whole new appreciation for their parents when I share with them what rocks their parents have been for our family over the past few years especially? Would my friend’s husband see his wife in a whole new way when I tell him that her ability to dive into deep play with me in the woods has fulfilled life-long dreams for how much I could laugh with, love and appreciate sister-friends?

My whole body flooded with warmth at the thought, and I committed in that moment to sharing impact, not only with the people who have impacted me, but with their loved ones too.  I love the idea of living in a world of appreciation and love.  Would you join me?

3 steps to sharing impact:

  1. Notice what the other person is saying or doing with or for you.
  2. Reflect back to them what you heard, or experienced – either in your own words, or paraphrasing.
  3. Share how hearing/experiencing that makes you feel, and how it has affected you.

It’s that simple!

It may look something like this:

“Honey, when you sent me a last minute invite for dinner on Sunday evening, my whole body relaxed knowing that someone else was taking care of my need for nourishment, and that you cared about me and what I’m going through. I can’t tell you how much it means to me to feel cared for right now.”

Or this:

“When you made me coffee this morning, I got all tingly and free-feeling inside, knowing that this simple act you did, included thinking about me and wanting to support me. I thrive as a result of your support, in all the ways that you show it!”

I invite you to think of three examples of people or experiences you had in the last 24 hours that had an impact on you and share it with the person who was a part of these experiences. Bonus points if you want to take it a step further and share the impact this person has had on you with their loved ones too!

Enjoy the feeling of love and appreciation multiplied and be ready to allow it to come back to you as well.

Blessings,

Pamela

p.s. I gave more examples in this video here.


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Perspectives on Power – 84 – Power of Sharing

I witnessed 90 people participate in a group training session today and wowee was the power of sharing ever present!!

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We as humans really have very little clue how much of an impact our heartfelt authentic sharing can have on others.

In a world full of wexters (those who walk and text on their smartphones as the same time) making eye to eye contact is getting rarer these days, let alone opening your heart and getting vulnerable with a sense of urgency and importance.

I am overcome by the powerful presence of lives being transformed around me, through me, and from me today.  I am feeling very blessed that I have the honour and privilege to share and be heard. I commit to creating a space for others to share and be heard as well!

Blessings,
Pamela


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Perspectives on Power – 88 – Fear to Freedom

This past weekend I was chatting with a girlfriend about going out Saturday night alone, and heard myself saying “It scares the $hit out of me (and yet rationally I know it’s no big deal) so that means I have to do it.  I’m meant to do it.”  I found the courage to do it, despite the girl at Sephora who sold me (a woman wearing absolutely no makeup or jewelry at the time) a pair of feathered eyelash art.  I drew heavily on the power that one other person in my life recently thought I was exactly the type of person who comfortably went out alone on a regular basis.  I can assure you, I was not.  Until I did, Saturday night.  

I ended up crossing paths with people I knew, and met a whole bunch of new people, and had a FABULOUS time indeed.  I learned so much about myself by observing the voice in my head and all the amazing excuses and reasons that almost kept me at home, almost had me leaving early, almost had me tanking my evening.  

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Now I feel like a free bird!  Not only do I feel the power and freedom in going anywhere I want anytime, regardless of whether or not I have company to join me, I also know that the voice inside my head telling me I’m too tired, I’m too busy, yeah that voice – that one is a liar and a coward.  I know who I am, and tired and too busy is not it.  I am love.  I am a physical expression of love.  It is a blessing to be able to share that love with others.  There is tremendous power in finding the courage to confront a fear, take action regardless of the wonderful reasons I may have for not taking action, and to fully embrace the freedom that lies on the other side by enjoying the moment, honouring my courage and letting my love flow as presence.

Blessings,

Pamela

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Perspectives on Power – 89 – The power of awareness

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There is great power in recognizing that you have thoughts and stories running through your mind all day. Something like 60,000 in a day. And the beauty is in discovering that YOU are the awareness that you are having thoughts. YOU are the audience to the storyteller in your head that debates about whether or not you should tell your co-worker that their fly is down or  if what that guy at the coffee shop just said to you warrants a smack down or not and how dare that woman not hold the door open for the old lady coming through….and on and on it goes all day long!

There is tremendous power in just becoming aware of these thoughts. For me I grew into such a positive, joy seeking being that when I reached new boundaries I was led to the gift of learning how to listen to what was already playing in my head. I had lots of practicing focus and directing my thoughts. Not so much in the being honest about how judgmental and critical my inner voice was (especially on myself go figure?!) even until this day. The great thing about discovering them by being aware of them is that I get to be complete with them now. I feel fully in my power when I have examined my judgement over my food choices today for example and then laugh at that voice inside my head. I am SO grateful to know I am the awareness of that thought – not the thought. Then my affirmations and rampages take on a deeply joyful quality that really resonates in my root chakra.

It is one thing to look in the mirror and playfully say “I love myself” as a practice – very powerful stuff.
It is another thing to look in the mirror into your own eyes and stare in silence for a bit knowing that you love yourself and that your very essence is love…welcome home. Another layer of power.

The power of awareness!

What is it that I am not yet aware of that in the awareness of it I would have exponential power, freedom and self expression?

Blessings,
Pamela


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Perspectives on Power – 90 – Power as Creator

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Empowering questions are some of my favourite ways of being inside of.
In what ways have I played the role of creator in my life until now?
In what ways can I play the role that will see a quantum leap towards where I would like to be next?
How can I learn what I don’t even know I don’t know?
How can I serve?
What would I like to create today?
How would it feel knowing that the universe is always on my side and everything is always working out for me?
What would it feel like to never worry about money or time again?
What does pure freedom feel like?
Mmmmmmm….
Sweet dreams powerful creators!

Pamela


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Perspectives on Power – 93 – The Power of Rejuvenation

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Ah yes the power of relaxing is monumental for me. And ironically it has taken me a few decades on this earth to come to the knowing that I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that relaxing is actually an intentional practice for me. I do not feel the same energy and power of rejuvenation from watching movies or playing games as I do from group meditation sessions, massages,  yoga classes, personal growth events, and having conscious conversation with open hearts and minds people. What are your rejuvenating activities? What do you consciously go into knowing that you will be super energized afterwards?

I am so blessed that tonight was spent a chilly minus 4 celsius, light snow, me outside at a Nordik Spa with a friend going from hot tub to steam room to sauna and back for more of each for a couple of hours.

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Nature. Heat. House Music. Amazing company. And now me sleeping with the angels tonight!

Sweet dreams – may they be all about how you will find your power of conscious rejuvenation this weekend!!

Blessings,
Pamela


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Perspectives on Power – 97 – The Power of Your Word

So today was one of those days where nothing went as I had planned for it to go, and yet everything that happened felt so perfectly awesome in the unfolding of it.  I found myself resisting emotions of resentment and anger which then led to self-judgement and self-criticism….that is until I happened upon an article about what being passive-aggressive really means and how showing up late is actually a form of being passive-aggressive, and that becoming passive-aggressive happens as a result of stuffing down emotions we don’t think we should be feeling or displaying – so I didn’t want to be stuffing down any emotions!  

I have to admit, having learned the value of commitment to my word and striving hard to organize my life around keeping that commitment, I am amazed at how often I see and experience people in my life not keeping their word.  And lately it has been happening in and around my time – people make plans with me and I’ve set aside time for them and then something just ‘comes up’ for them and they break that commitment.  We lose power when we break our word.  It’s in the simplest things.  Those of you who have young children have likely learned this lesson well.  If you promise a child that you will take them to the park after work and then after work it is raining and you ‘can’t go’, you can see, feel, taste, and hear the disappointment – they are emotional powerhouses.  Not to mention the fact of what happens if that promise is broken because of any other excuse other than an act of nature – like “traffic was bad and I got home too late” or “I’m too tired” or “wouldn’t you rather do X instead?”….

In fact, just 10 days ago I had to make peace in a hurry with breaking my word – I had committed to going to Toronto for the weekend and I was dearly looking forward to seeing friends and loved ones and having a jolly awesome time.  What I had to admit by Friday morning was that I had not arranged myself that entire week to be ready to go to Toronto.  In fact, I was so exhausted that if I had gotten in to a car that afternoon alone to drive for 5 hours, I would have been putting myself and others in danger.  Not cool.  Also not cool that at my age I couldn’t organize my life a little bit better to keep my commitment.  Or, perhaps evaluate the commitment against the existing commitments that I had BEFORE making it (I know March is busy at work, I knew a colleague would be on holidays and my workload would be exceptionally stressful, I knew there were family birthdays that week, and I knew there were other business meetings happening in the evenings, so not a single day was a ‘down’ day or night for rest and repair).  Yes I wanted to be in TO, and yes I wanted to connect with friends and loved ones, but there really are only so many things I can do at one time right now.  So I admitted my loss of integrity to my friends and loved ones.  I apologized for not arranging my life better in order to keep the commitment.  I acknowledged their time they had set aside to meet me and host me, and how now there was a loss of memories we were both looking forward to.  I suggested a compromise in some instances, that turned out to be heartwarmingly amazing points of connection, which was my intent all along for the weekend, and generally felt satisfied that even though I had broken my word, the people who saw me break it, and were impacted by me breaking it, were apologized to, acknowledged, validated the loss of power we both felt in the situation, and the consequences of me breaking my word.  I know, I know – all this sounds extreme for blowing off weekend plans right?  Wrong….

That is why I am writing about this today.

This is one of the keys to the kingdom.

Your word is a point of creation.

Keeping your word is the fuel in manifestation.

Saying what you will do and then doing it creates more momentum than ANYTHING ELSE!

How do you feel when you commit to working out 3 times per week?  Powerful.

How do you feel the first time you don’t work out 3 times in a week?  Not so powerful.

I invite you do take a look at your average day – how many times do you say something you already know you’re not going to do?!  And how many times do you hear someone else say something and you already know they are not going to do it?!  Total loss of power.  All the way around.

Start small.  Start easy.  Forgive yourself for any setbacks.  Forgive others for they know not what they do, but you do now, so help them along the way.  Say what you are gonna do, and do what you say you’re gonna do.  It builds momentum, trust, confidence, power, freedom, self-expression, and on and on and on.  You can do it.  Just find yourself in that state of all possibilities, don’t say yes, or no, right away to anything.  Say ‘I’ll get back to you’ and practice giving yourself the time and space to weigh out your commitments at first.  You may get gut feels in the moment that opportunity presents itself to you indicating a yes or a no for you.  Either way, be compassionate with yourself and others.  This is a difficult behaviour to acknowledge that we all slip up on (I mean all of us!) and even once it is in your awareness, it is still like quick-sand to fall back into a loss of power – especially when there are friends and loved ones who will gladly accept your excuses/reasons for breaking your word and keep on loving you anyways.  There is not as much power in that status quo as there is in living a life beyond reasons and doing whatever it takes to keep your word.

I was enrolled in a course in Montreal last winter and a friend was driving us there.  Along the way we had a flat (with run-flat tires, so you get another 100km’s out of it before you must change it) and instead of turning around and heading back to Ottawa (which would have been very reasonable) we drove to a dealership in Montreal that we found the location of on our smartphones, rented a car from them, and still made it to our course only about 20 minutes late.  My gawd we were SO PUMPED to be there and SO PROUD of our accomplishments in being unreasonable.  It was exhilarating!  And my friend drove the rental car back the next day to pick up his car – he was showing EXTRA commitment!  WOW! There is great power in honouring your word.  I know it, you know it, and now we’ve both acknowledged it here.  No turning back.  Happy word-keeping!

Namaste,

Pamela

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