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Perspectives on Power -96- Silence

Silence is golden.
Silent treatment.
Silent meditation.
Silent prayer.
The calm after the storm.
Waking up to nature in the country.
What you hear when everyone is busy enjoying a great meal!

Sometimes the sweetest moments – the impactful, lasting memorable times of your life, did not involve words being spoken.

There is great power in silence. Go into it in love, peace, & joy and you will come out of it with those in abundance…


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Before the arson police start banging on my door, let me define what I mean by the title “Firestarter!” – One who is tapped in, tuned in and turned on by their own fire within and naturally in turn sparks the flame of others to burn brightly as well.  I love that about fire!  It grows and spreads, just as a person who is ‘on fire’ naturally grows and spreads inspiration to others in their vicinity.

And what that ‘fire’ is can be very unique to each and everyone of us, but we all know what it is for us without a doubt.  As we enter into the third full week of 2014, and most of us have either a) slipped off the new year’s resolution band wagon or b) never got on it in the first place, I challenge you to instead start building your fire kit.

What pumps you up?  What gets you really excited?  What do you admire most in others?  How do you define hero?  Or success?  Or awesomeness?  Look for it in pictures and events and moments or music, and collect it all into a vision board, a youtube playlist, a video, a magic box, a journal, an evernote, a pinterest board – whatever floats your boat – and look at it daily.  Let this be your point of focus for the next 30 days.  Just getting jazzed about your life!  Yes – YOUR LIFE!

You will be amazed by the synchronicities and how the universe conspires to bring you more excitement about what you are already excited about!  And one day, you will wake up and realize, you my friend, are a Firestarter!

The world needs people who have come alive!


It really is the small stuff…

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Cuban Pottery

Cuban Pottery

I love pottery.  I have been taking lessons and potting myself for over 3 years now, and I have always had an affinity for all things clay whenever I am garage-saling or at an arts-and-crafts fair.  When I was at an indoor flea market in Havana, Cuba in January 2012 with my Mother, I was over-joyed to find a potter’s booth.  At first I was so torn wondering what might make it back in my suitcase in one piece.  Luckily these stunning plates are thick and durable.  I especially love their strong feminine energy.  They have been sitting at the back of a shelf in my living room for almost a year now and every time I look at them I feel a pang of guilt for not having hung them up properly yet.  Just last week I bought krazy glue for the first time, knowing it would come in handy for this project and several others I am sure!  I also bought teeth hooks that same night.  I was on a roll!  Then it took me another week to actually sit down and do it, but I did – and these pictures are proof!  They are now hanging in my bedroom and I look forward to seeing these two beauties when I wake up each morning.

I am celebrating the fact that I hung them up tonight! I am so proud of myself for following through on this one simple project that has caused me endless thoughts of guilt and grief.  I cannot even begin to tell you the real sense of accomplishment that came flooding through my body as I looked at them, and then I just knew I had to share a picture  and the story on the blog here, because I am learning how important sharing is.  How vital it is.  That we all need to know one another’s struggles and celebrate one another’s accomplishments in a way that helps us grow together.  It is not simply about me expanding my beliefs and my comfort zone in secret.  It is about me being vulnerable and learning and sharing that with anyone who has a hunger to know it, to learn from it, and to make it their own and celebrate their lives too!

We are in this together! Is there something you have put off for a long time and have recently (or are just about to resolve to) finish off?! HOORAY!!! Please do share in the comments section below so we can keep growing together!

Dream Big,

Pamela 🙂

Cuban Pottery

Cuban Pottery


Conscious Creation

Wow – so I had the inspiration yesterday to do a video message/blog for the first time and of course a bunch of fears popped up in the form of excuses as to why that wasn’t a good idea, and even though it took me 24 hours to actually do it, I even hesitated about posting it once it was done!  How silly are we sometimes?!  We all have to start somewhere and while the lighting isn’t great and I read a lot of my message, the message itself still stands and I hope you find some inspiration, motivation or EMPOWERMENT to consciously create today as well.

Consciously creating our life, one day at a time:

I mentioned David Myles – Simple Pleasures – here’s a link in case you are interested in listening: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4LDt4vAJ3Rg


I would be so honoured if you would let me know what ideas you came up with and how your creations turned out!  We are all on this journey together and I share because I also need to learn, and I value hearing from others’ experience as well.




Feel the Fear…

Lululemon has it on their bags – Do one thing a day that scares you!  We’ve all heard the saying, “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyways” (I think there’s a book titled that too!).  Many an inspirational story has been written about people who conquered their fears and in doing so discovered their greatest passions in life.  But are we really in touch with our fear?  I mean the obvious fears are easy to be aware of – fear of dying or seriously injuring yourself, fear of humiliation, fear of failure, fear of change, fear of not being accepted, fear of being alone.  Lately I’ve been pondering all the smaller ways in which I feel fear, that may have other disguises like ‘anxiety’, or ‘stress’, or just plain old ‘excuses’.

Yup that’s right!  When you make an excuse for not doing something that life has delivered an open invitation for you to experience, I believe there is a hidden fear behind those excuses.  Excuses like “I’d eat healthier if it weren’t so expensive and didn’t take so much more time to prepare.”  “I don’t have the time to exercise.”  “There’s never enough time to clean my house and have a life!”  I’ve come to this realization because I’ve made excellent use of those excuses and others for a long time myself!!

Here’s the thing though.  Life is a choice.  And we have the power to choose.  In each and every moment.  And more and more I see these little fears I’ve discovered as a huge gift, leading me to understand better the ways in which I can choose to liberate myself!  How can we embrace change if we cannot also embrace fear?!

3 Steps to embracing fear:

1.  Face it.  Accept it.  Name it.  Laugh with it.  Last night I went to my first ever kickboxing class and I was full of a tonne of excuses and fears all day, but I made it, and some of my fears were coming true during the class (yes, I looked like an uncoordinated newbie in the class for sure!) and instead of feeling humiliated, I chose to laugh out loud.  That’s right – there’s Pamela in a class of very serious people trying to look tough, laughing at the fact that she doesn’t seem to be able to remember her left from her right!  hehehe  

Earlier in the day I had also expressed my fear in writing, and then read what I wrote later on to ponder it as an observer.  And I thanked myself for being so honest, and then asked myself, what’s the worst thing that can happen if those fears come true?  And you know what?  It wasn’t anything that I couldn’t think of a remedy for.  But in having to answer the question, I realized ‘the worst case’ wasn’t doom and gloom anyways.  This is the point where you know if your fear is really protecting you (say for instance if you’re afraid to walk back to your hotel in a strange city you’ve never been to before at 3am, perhaps the worst case scenario there is worth looking at?!).

2.  Build the habit of embracing fear.  The more we are thankful for becoming aware of our fears and excuses in the moment, the more they will become known to us.  And the more we become aware of these fears and excuses and practice step one by examining the worst case scenario and then making a choice whether to take the action or not, we are empowering ourselves to act from a liberated place of true inner knowing, and not from a place where unknown fears are keeping us safe and comfortable on the couch.

  • Sometimes the biggest act of courage is a small one.  ~Lauren Raffo

3.  Tackle the big ones as a practice.  If you find a pattern in your excuses, such as you avoid social situations because you’re afraid of not fitting in, then set aside some time when you’re not faced with having to make a decision to attend a function or not, and delve into what that fear is really about for you.  Does it protect you somehow?  Does it serve a purpose in your life?  When do you first remember that feeling of ‘not fitting in’?  How has that pattern weaved throughout your life?  How would it feel to fit in?  What does that look like going forward in your life?  What types of things do you do naturally when you are confident that your place in the world is unshakable?  Are you ready to make that choice now?  If it’s a phobia you just can’t come to terms with through journalling or meditation, perhaps it’s worth seeing a professional to delve into?  Many people with a fear of flying now enjoy international vacations whenever they choose!  Many people with a fear of heights, have now done over 100 skydiving trips!

Three simple steps – not necessarily easy, but simple!  And just remember, fear is not a bad thing, nor is listening to it, as long as you are aware that is the choice you are making in the moment and that when you’re ready to choose something else, you know you can!

“Courage is not the absence of fear but the judgment that something else is more important than fear. The brave may not live forever but the cautious do not live at all. For now you are traveling the road between who you think you are and who you can be.”  Meg Cabot

One thing I can tell you from my own journey of discovering my fears is that I have found more joy, freedom and adventure from feeling the fear and doing the thing I feared anyways, then I have from listening to the excuses and not questioning the beliefs and fears behind them.

Empower yourself with choice today.  What is one thing you’ve always wanted to do, but were afraid to do it?!  Make it happen.  You won’t regret it!