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Impact has impact

My father recently passed away, and although there are many profound aspects to this experience, the one I want to share today is one of impact. I was filled with love as people reached out to me in all sorts of ways to share the impact my father had on their lives.

“There were always laughs at the meetings he chaired.”

“He was always playing pranks at work and making us laugh.”

“I remember as a young kid playing at your farm and your Dad was always smiling.”

“I remember learning to play cards with your Dad and he was always so patient and encouraging.”

And the stories kept piling in. While anyone that knows me well, knows that my love and devotion to my father already ran deep, hearing these stories opened me up to a deeper appreciation and love for the way in which my father had lived his life and lifted others. I knew how much I loved and respected my father, but I honestly had no idea how many fond memories filled with love and respect that others held of him too.

This got me thinking. A lot.

What if I had heard these stories even before my father passed away? What would be the impact on how much I was able to love and support my father in his wonderful life? What would it look like if I shared my gratitude and appreciation for the friends and family in my life, with their friends and family? Would my friend’s children see their Mom in a whole new light when I share with them how amazing her timing is for knowing when I need a hug, even when I don’t reach out? Would my cousins have a whole new appreciation for their parents when I share with them what rocks their parents have been for our family over the past few years especially? Would my friend’s husband see his wife in a whole new way when I tell him that her ability to dive into deep play with me in the woods has fulfilled life-long dreams for how much I could laugh with, love and appreciate sister-friends?

My whole body flooded with warmth at the thought, and I committed in that moment to sharing impact, not only with the people who have impacted me, but with their loved ones too.  I love the idea of living in a world of appreciation and love.  Would you join me?

3 steps to sharing impact:

  1. Notice what the other person is saying or doing with or for you.
  2. Reflect back to them what you heard, or experienced – either in your own words, or paraphrasing.
  3. Share how hearing/experiencing that makes you feel, and how it has affected you.

It’s that simple!

It may look something like this:

“Honey, when you sent me a last minute invite for dinner on Sunday evening, my whole body relaxed knowing that someone else was taking care of my need for nourishment, and that you cared about me and what I’m going through. I can’t tell you how much it means to me to feel cared for right now.”

Or this:

“When you made me coffee this morning, I got all tingly and free-feeling inside, knowing that this simple act you did, included thinking about me and wanting to support me. I thrive as a result of your support, in all the ways that you show it!”

I invite you to think of three examples of people or experiences you had in the last 24 hours that had an impact on you and share it with the person who was a part of these experiences. Bonus points if you want to take it a step further and share the impact this person has had on you with their loved ones too!

Enjoy the feeling of love and appreciation multiplied and be ready to allow it to come back to you as well.



p.s. I gave more examples in this video here.


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Fresh starts…

Which hand do you wipe your bum with when you poop?

Bold question, I know.

In the last few months I’ve been giving a lot of thought to the things I do automatically every day and wondering what would happen if I consciously disrupted those patterns.  I used to wipe with my right hand.  I’ve likely been wiping with my right hand for the better part of 40 years.

So now I’m making a conscious effort to wipe with my left hand, and I feel like a 4 year old learning about how to use my body all over again.  Who knew 40 years of wiping on one side would create so much flexibility, range of motion, and effectiveness?  I didn’t know until I started wiping with my left hand and felt like I had to figure out new ways to contort myself in order to get the job done!


Something even more interesting is that when I’m rushing off to a meeting, or running late for whatever reason, I’m almost always finding myself with the toilet paper in my right hand, and I consciously have to say to myself, you are using your left hand now and make the switch.  It’s a mini moment of presence in my day.  It’s been a few months now and it is getting easier and I am finding myself more effective than when I first started; however, I’m still discovering that impulse to follow the old pattern of using my right hand.  I wonder when that will dissipate out of my experience altogether?  How long will it take for the left hand to be the habit?

I love this type of playful curiosity and experimentation with my life!  And I’m certain that my body and brain will thank me for the attention and disruption.  And it leads me to more personal ponderings…

  • What other habits or patterns have I been practicing for ages that could use a little conscious attention and perhaps some re-engineering?
  • What other challenges can I playfully introduce into my life that provide me with the opportunity for a) having a fun focus and b) to be present?

I’m curious to know, have you discovered any patterns and disrupted them from a place of playfulness and presence?

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So much goes unsaid…

So much goes unsaid

When we fit our tete-a-tete, heart-to-heart, and soul-to-soul conversations

In between

What we really want to be doing

So much goes unsaid

When we listen with our ears

but not our hearts

So much goes unsaid

When we hit a wall

And love holds us back from punching through it

Or fear

Of being judged?

Of being wrong?

Of what, I don’t know

So much goes unsaid

I know this, because 60,000 thoughts fly through my head in a day

I may give voice to less than a thousand of those, and I’m sure another few thousand are all about which thousand to say out loud

So much goes unsaid

When I want to hug you, kiss you, rough up your hair, ground you in your body, tickle you

And yet you are not here with me

You’re somewhere else

I can only imagine tickling you

It’s not the same

So much goes unsaid

When our beliefs are not fully aligned

And our strengths come out to play defense

When it becomes about winning

And not about what works

So much goes unsaid

When we lose our focal point, and get mired in the details

It feels mucky

And suffocating

And I find myself scrambling for pieces of intention

So much goes unsaid

When we focus on the thing

And forget the person

As though they exist

In our realities

Only for this one purpose

Yet it is their reality

they bring

to the one purpose

So much goes unsaid

But our bodies and brains are magnetic fields of magical intelligence

They know what the heart holds

They know what intentions are present

They know the person and the purpose

They know the context and the conversation

They know our fears and our loves

They know our strengths and our weaknesses

They know without our knowing that they know

They know

They know

They know

So really

Nothing goes unsaid

As long as

We listen

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She touches everything, she changes everything and everything she touches changes…

Wow – I have to admit it has been more than a year since I have last posted to my website/blog, and therefore more than a year of life and changes have occurred. In renewing my domain again for another year today I was struck by how much of this content was so impactful for me at the time, but in no way is a total reflection of my current way of being, my current worldview, and therefore is not in service to myself or you if you are reading this right now. This is very inspiring to me for many reasons!  One of which is the stunning realization that while I don’t feel much different today than I did yesterday, I certainly feel WAY DIFFERENT than I did 14 months ago.  The journey of a thousand miles certainly does being with a single step. I have just been handed evidence from the Universe that indeed there is an evolving and expanding nature woven into my life and my choices and that delights me! The second realization is that since my strong desire and commitment to whomever is reading this is that we play along this journey of life together in curiosity and playfulness, then I have certainly not lived in to that commitment if I am not sharing who I am being and what I am experiencing along the way. This clarity of commitment has never been so striking to me as it is right now! I am excited to write more, create some videos, and find other fun ways to connect and share and grow and play!

Stay in touch, as I sense this will be a beautiful butterfly being born in the coming weeks….


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Perspectives on Power – 73 – The Power of Action

You know the saying “If you want something done, ask a busy person to do it.”?  And how many times do you hear “I’m so busy” come out of someone’s mouth when you make a request or ask for a favour?  It’s like the North American status symbol these days to be able to prove how busy you are by listing off all the things you are doing.

Let’s face it though.

A hamster on his wheel is pretty darned busy too.

And most of us are a lot more like the hamster than we may be willing to admit to ourselves right now.

When you see Brian Greco’s Axis of Productivity below, where would you say you spend most of your Brian Greco - Axis of Productivityday?   Where would you say you want to be spending most of your day?
I heard Darren Hardy speak recently and the following story really hit home to me like a slap in the face.  When he was a young, go-getter, full of ambition real-estate agent, he sat down to figure out what his top 3 money making activities to bring in the most return on effort.


productivity quadrant

So he bought a big hang-around-your-neck stop watch and meticulously tracked every minute of his day with how he truly spent his time in his real-estate business.  I think on his first day he was in shock when he tallied up his activities and times and was hit by the realization that he had spent less than 17 minutes of his day doing the top 3 activities that he knew brought in business.  If I recall correctly it took him weeks (if not longer) and a lot of discipline to get close to 4 hours in one day of time spent where he actually wanted it to be spent.

I have recently been having conversations with some very successful entrepreneurs and starting to realize that if I timed myself throughout the day, I’d be lucky if I too made it to 17 minutes.  And that is IF I spent some time to focus on what my top 3 activities are towards which precise goal I am measuring myself against.  Because like it or not, we are all measuring ourselves to some extent or another.  So better to be honest with myself and call it like it is, rather than stuff down the emotions of wanting to do and have more than I currently am doing and having.  I know it is possible.  I know it is inevitable.  I am now realistically writing out what the steps are between here and there and consistently taken action.  And I have found a group of people who will hold me accountable, because let’s face it, I accept my own excuses all the time for not doing things, and most of the people who know and love me also accept my excuses.  So finding people who know and love you and will hold you accountable to keeping your word, and also mentor you on what the steps are to help you keep your word is VERY POWERFUL.

So how can you be in action today that will have you BEing an empowered creator?





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Perspectives on Power – 74 – The Power of Strength

So I ran a 5KM last weekend with my niece and it went really well except I did get a really huge blister on my instep during the race and it is still healing.  Despite that, I went for my first ever aerial silks training class yesterday.  I’d like to say I have Cirque du Soleil potential, but the fact is, I have a long road to go to get there!  Lucky for me that is not my dream!  My dream is to be in the best shape of my adult life and this year has been full of that kinda stuff!

So I’m used to doing mountain climbers and planks of all kinds and loads of other ab exercises in the hot yoga classes and this 30*30 total transformation home exercise routine I started.  Who knew that doing those things part-time and sitting at a chair in front of a computer full time would mean that pulling oneself up into the silks like a chin up and then raising ones knees to their chest would require a whole new level of strength?!!!


Watching the instructor perform the above move at the very beginning of class, well, she made it look really easy!  Then a few people who had been taking aerial silk classes for a while also made it look really easy.  And none of these people were particularly ‘cut’ or ‘ripped’.  To me they looked like your average fit person. But when I attempted to do even a tiny fraction of what they were capable of doing on the silks I was humbled.  Lucky for me I find this inspiring.  I love knowing that next week when I go back I will have built up even more strength and I will see vast improvement over the 6 weeks.  I love knowing that building even more strength than what I already have will help me to feel powerful and strong, physically and emotionally and mentally.  I love that I won’t look like I’m in the WWA just by building some strength.  I love that I will be more ready than ever before for tank top season!  I love that I will be able to play and have fun in the aerial silks and eventually do more tricks and perhaps a bit of a routine.  I love that I can be humbled and inspired all in one night!

What kind of physical strength do you have?  Have you attempted an activity lately where you noticed what level you were at?  Does the power of physical strength serve you well right now?  Are there ways in which building your strength could serve you even more?

Whatever it is you do to take care of your body, may the power of strength be with you!



p.s. If you’ve ever trained on aerial silks, I’d love to hear some great at-home exercises/frequency to help me build up my silk muscles!  I know push-ups and tricep dips and planks are staples.  Can they be done daily?

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Perspectives on Power – 75 – Power of Animals

I remember writing about my cats as companions and the power pets bring to our lives.  Today I was pleasantly reminded of the power of ‘wild’ animals as well, when I discovered a bunny rabbit in my backyard – he’s a few days early if Easter is his game!

Nature is constantly evolving and weaving a magical tale of synergy and love all around us.  We are blessed if we but only take a moment to interact.







There is great power in BEing with animals – tamed or untamed, live, or through a window/glass/fence/television screen/earbuds.  But don’t take my word for it.  Test it out for yourself – like a science experiment.  Take an incident that happened in the last day or few days that really peeved you right off.  I mean you were snappin’ angry at someone for what they said/did.  Rate the power of that emotion on a scale of 1-10.  10 being you are no where near forgiveness and 1 being, eck no biggie it was what it was and now it’s done!

Ok, now either go outside and close your eyes and listen for the birds singing, or youtube cutest baby animals taking a bath, or baby mala the monkey, or if possible go for a walk in nature and observe all the living creatures around you!  Now think about that incident and give the emotion a rating of 1-10 while fully taking in the sounds/sights of any animal.

Report back here – did you feel any difference?  How long did you spend with the animals?


Pamela 🙂